Mother’s Day is coming up!
Do you get breakfast in bed after a morning of luxurious sleeping in every Mother’s Day? Do you not have to lift a finger the entire day, except to set the combination on your spa locker? Or does that all sound like a fantasy? Some of us have been conditioned to think that anything other than a picture perfect day is a disappointment, or an inadequate expression of gratitude for all you do as a mother. If that sounds familiar, take heart: many wonderful mothers have less-than-perfect Sundays…it’s not at all a reflection of your success or worthiness as a mother! Some very deserving mothers do not have a partner to pamper them, or have partners who work. Some amazing mothers just don’t get the recognition they deserve even IF they have a partner around to celebrate with them. Remember this is a day about your bond with your children, so if no one is planning to spoil you, take the opportunity to treat yourself and your children to a magical day.
If no one has made any plans for you: Perhaps someone close to you is planning a surprise, but if no plans are in the works, take the reins! Choose something that will make you feel happy, relaxed, or rewarded. It can be as simple as a trip to the makeup counter or something more elaborate. There’s nothing stopping you from making Mother’s Day your own!
If your favorite restaurant is fully booked: Make a reservation for another day! Literally everyone and their mother is dining out for Mother’s Day, so service is typically frenzied, the kitchen is slow, and there is always a wait for a table. Head outdoors with a picnic instead. Pick up your favorite readymade items so you don’t have to cook. May is a beautiful time of year, but if the weather’s not on your side, an impromptu indoor picnic can be a great memory to share with your children. Remember that is does not have to be fancy to be fantastic.
If you did manage to snag a table for brunch: Announce to any adults accompanying you to the restaurant that for once you will be enjoying your food while it’s hot! Forget the screentime guilt and let your kids play with your phone while you enjoy a mimosa or coffee. And bring a hefty side of patience; Mother’s Day service will be slower and busier than nearly any other day of the year.
If the day did not live up to your expectations: Take stock of all you are grateful for, take a deep breath, and resolve to express your desires more clearly the following year. If you were wishing and hoping for something that you didn’t actually ask for, it’s a great reminder to remember no one can read your mind. Hug your kids a little tighter and remember that it’s a blessing to be a mother every day of the year!
If you’re actually getting spoiled: ENJOY IT! Many women have trouble receiving without guilt: Mother’s Day is not the day for that! So don’t rush back from your spa appointment, don’t feel guilty for taking time to recharge, and certainly don’t jump in for every one of your children’s needs if there is someone else there to provide care.
Happy Mother’s Day to all our amazing, loving Tiny Toes moms!
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